Sean and I wrote our own vows for our wedding, and read them to each other privately the morning of and then later during the ceremony. These vows are simply putting into words what the Bible says we should both be doing anyway as followers of Christ in marriage, and that is why we included Scripture passages throughout.
Rebekah LeTourneau, it is with great joy that today, I desire to take you to be my wife. It is with much purpose that I promise to give my deepest love to you as my spouse and I make this covenant before you God our Father to fulfill my role to you as your husband. Through an honorable marriage (Hebrews 13:4), it is my prayer that we might both serve Jesus Christ as one body, as long as we are both present together in this life. It is because of this new life with you that I leave my family and hold fast to you as my own flesh (Genesis 2:23-24), and stand firm with you, to pursue faith in the Gospel of Christ (Philippians 1:27). Under God’s Word, I am to love you with an incorruptible love shown by Christ (Ephesians 6:24), and to love you as Christ loves His Church (Ephesians 5:25) and with this responsibility, I vow these things to you:
I will esteem you as my own body (Ephesians 5:28) and will cherish you as such. It will be my mission to see you sanctified towards holiness and to nourish you continually by teaching you God’s Word, (Ephesians 5:26,29) and not to squander you as God’s gift to me (Matthew 25:18, 24-27). I promise to physically and spiritually protect you as the weaker vessel (1 Peter 3:7) and though sometimes I may fail, I will get back up fight for you again (Proverbs 24:16, Nehemiah 4:14). I pledge to be faithful to you until death separates us, no matter what pressures, pain, or trials may lie ahead of us (Matthew 19:8-9, 1 Corinthians 13:8) and to rejoice, give thanks, and offer prayer to the Lord always for the life He’s given us (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18).
I will give my affection to no other (Exodus 20:17, Proverbs 5:15) but wholly give my life to you (John 15:13) as well as my body as it will no longer be my own, but will belong to you (1 Corinthians 7:4, 11:11). I vow to honor you as my wife (1 Peter 3:7) and to hold your love above all earthly things (Proverbs 19:14, 31:10) and your companionship as my greatest privilege (Proverbs 12:4). In this continuous friendship I commit to show you steadfast love, patience, and kindness (1 Corinthians 13:4-7).
I promise to work with my hands and put myself to the task of providing a living for our house as a stand for the faith (2 Thessalonians 3:12, 1 Timothy 5:8). I will lead our household and will walk in integrity before God and before you (Psalm 101: 2) and will do so for the service of the Lord (Joshua 24:15). If God chooses to give us the blessing of children (Psalm 127:3-5) I, with your help, I will lead and guide them in the ways of the Truth (Ephesians 6:4, Deuteronomy 6:7). It is through our marriage that I ultimately desire to glorify the Lord (1 Corinthians 10:31) and through my love for you, that I desire to mirror the love that our Savior pours out for His Bride, the Church (Isaiah 61:10, Ephesians 5:25, Revelation 21:9).
Dear Sean, I am overjoyed today to be taken as your wife before the Lord as we begin our life together as one. As heirs with you in the grace of life (1 Pet. 3:7), and as imitators of God as His beloved children, may we both walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave Himself up for us (Eph. 5:12). Marriage is the closest imitation of God’s love for His own, and it is the greatest honor and joy to be able to reflect that in marrying you! We are equal in Christ (Gal. 3:28) and both partners in the Gospel and partakers of grace together (Phil. 1:5, 7). The Lord has given us each different yet complimentary roles in His perfect design that we might glorify Him and sanctify each other.